Dear Liza: After dealing with an unexpected death of my spouse my head is still spinning.. My spouse was very private after a divorce and we kept our affairs separate. Now the Will, of which I was unaware, allows me to stay in our home and if I choose to leave or pass it goes to her children. The attorney who handled the will said I have control of what happens;
1) I can stay in house till death and take 20% of non probate
2) I can take 1/3 of elective share and no house
3) Or I can select make children offer to buy house based on actuarial tables and 20% of non probate.
How do I get that info to make a good decision? Will says to maintain house in good repair, so does that mean I have to put another $20K for a new roof? I’m sorry that you have to make such important choices and were taken by surprise by them, on top of the grief that comes with losing a spouse. Here’s my advice: hire an attorney to represent you, as the beneficiary under the Will. You need someone who can advise you on your options and explain to you what the Will means — not just in regard to what “good repair” means, but also as to what your elective share rights are, for a start (these are determined by state law).
Please ask that attorney how a Will can offer you twenty-percent of “non-probate” assets, as these generally are assets that pass by beneficiary and are not controlled by a Will at all. If your spouse named you as the beneficiary of her retirement assets or if you owned property with her as a joint tenant, these assets would pass to you by virtue of that, not by the Will at all.