Opposite-sex couples with children don’t think much about what would happen if one of them were unable to care for the kids–obviously, the other parent would step in. Likewise, married couples should make wills, but even if they don’t, a surviving spouse gets most or all of the deceased spouse’s property.

For same-sex couples living in states where neither marriage equality nor relationship recognition (in the form of domestic partnerships or civil unions) has arrived, none of the above is necessarily true. This New York Times article describes the reality for one lesbian couple raising their children in Michigan.